are we really moving on....... or just moving on to someone else?
are we really moving on....... or just moving on to someone else?
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are we really moving on....... or just moving on to someone else?
The second a relationship ends, it’s like everyone expects a comeback season. new
haircut, new spotify playlist, new situationship and suddenly it’s a “new era unlocked.”
we post a photo dump, our friends flooding the comment section with “that’s so diva”,
“slayyyy”, texting and saying things like “there are a lot of fishes in the sea”, “tujhe toh
koi bhi mil jayega.” and for a while it actually feels like we’ve moved on....but have we?
or are we just putting our feelings on airplane mode and pretending everything is chill?
dating has become so fast that breakups barely get time to breathe before someone new
slides into the dms. one minute you’re crying over old chat, the next you’re matching
playlists with someone else. you already have a dating app ready, the next minute of
breakup and likes flooding in...with same intro questions and pick up lines, such cliches.
it’s like hitting ‘next episode’ before you’ve even processed the last one. somewhere
between maintaining streaks, stalking reposts and decoding instagram notes like they are
some secret codes, we’ve started confusing attention with healing and that’s where our
life starts to glitch.
also social media doesn’t make this any easier. every other day there’s a hard launch, a
soft launch, or an ‘accidentally posted but definitely intentional’ story for that specific
someone.....and the desperation with which you keep checking the views. everyone
looks like they’re living in a rom-com while being single starts feeling like you are
missing an update. so instead of sitting with the heartbreak, we jump into another talking
stage because silence feels louder than notifications. and the hilarious part? we carry the
same overthinking, attachment issues and trust problems into every new relationship we
enter into more like we keep changing the cast of our series but the script remains the
same. someone takes three hours to reply and suddenly we’ve already imagined an entire
breakup, a wedding with someone else and a new talking stage with someone else has
begun. delulu feels fun until reality decides to humble us. then we’re left wondering
why every relationship feels the same when we’ve never really paused long enough to
unpack the last one.
the biggest glow-up isn't finding someone new every few months but becoming someone
who doesn’t need constant validation to feel complete. sometimes the best relationship
update is getting to know yourself. rather than relationship hopping, go cafe hopping,
yap with your best friend till midnight, become weirdly obsessed with a hobby, touch
some grass, binge watch your fav comfort show, sit with yourself and grieve the
heartbreak wherein you learn to enjoy your own company. a relationship should be an
add-on, not your entire personality and source of happiness. tbh healing isn’t aesthetic at
all, it's messy, awkward and painfully slow with random crashout which is probably why
no one posts about them online. you can’t put a band-aid on your heartbreak with another
“what are we?” conversation every other month. so before jumping into another
situationship next time just because being alone feels unfamiliar, maybe it's high time you
choose yourself for once. protecting your peace is way cooler and important than chasing
temporary butterflies. because the best glow-ups don't come with a plus one.
- Maitrayee Repal