Closure Is Lowkey a Scam

If there’s one thing our generation loves almost as much as iced coffee, late night overthinking and stalking someone on Instagram just to check in, it’s the idea of closure. Every breakup, friendship fallout, failed talking stages or situationship that crashed and burned somehow ends with, “one last time, I just need closure to move on.” as if there’s some final conversation waiting to happen that’ll suddenly fix everything and make all the confusion disappear like who are you even tryna fool now. Okay okay let’s be for real, closure has been romanticized way too much. We’re constantly told that we need answers before we can finally move on. We NEED to know why they left, why they changed, what went wrong and whether they even cared in the first place or was I imagining all this. But most of the time, getting those answers changes absolutely nothing (just trust me on this I’ve been there). You’re still hurt, still confused and now you just have new information to overthink during your 2am spiral. No cap, closure is kind of mid.

 

You know what I find so funny is that most people aren’t actually looking for closure; they’re looking for comfort. All they want is for the other person to say, “I messed up.” A genuine apology, a grand explanation or at least some proof that the whole thing wasn’t just another waste of time. But life isn’t a Netflix series where every character gets a dramatic final speech of “I’m sorry I messed up, I still love you” before the credits roll. Sometimes people leave without explaining themselves. Sometimes they switch up out of nowhere like bro what are these mood swings! Sometimes they ghost and bas, that’s the entire plot. If someone keeps choosing not to text back, not to communicate or not to show up for you, honey you have your answer. It might not be the answer you wanted, no message is also a message. And if you expect closure after this……kya hi bacha hai ab, your self respect is more important than all this.

The problem with chasing closure is that it keeps you stuck in the same loop. You keep rereading old chats, replaying conversations , creating fake scenarios in your head that they explained everything finally, and then you go full FBI mode trying to decode what that “take care” text even meant. It’s giving unpaid emotional internship fr. Meanwhile, life is literally moving on and you’re still refreshing a chapter that’s ended long ago. At some point you have to accept that not every story gets happily ever after. Real closure isn’t some achievement you unlocked in a video game after one deep conversation. It is when you finally stop waiting for that text, stop checking if they viewed your story, and stop treating every random sign as a part of the lore. That’s the real plot twist. The real flex isn’t getting an explanation you’ve been chasing, it’s actually reaching a point where even if the explanation comes you are so nonchalant about it and you just reply “okay” lol keep them guessing and spiralling now (just kidding). That’s how you know you’ve moved on. Some things are better left on delivered, left in the past and left alone. Period.