Everyone is Lost in Their 20s
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Everyone is Lost in Their 20s-
We just Hide it Well For years we have seen in movies, the twenties are always depicted as fun, out-going and exciting years of life. A time to enjoy, have big dreams, fall in love and experience everything that there is. We grow up believing that this decade is going to turn out magical. But in reality these experiences seem pretty different. Externally everyone seems to be having the time of their life, figuring everything out but internally it's a completely different version. Beneath that mask lies confusion, self-doubt, anxiety and the constant fear of falling behind. It feels like everyone knows what they are doing but you keep asking yourself-
● What am I supposed to do with my life?
● Am I making the right choices?
● Do I even belong here?
● How has everyone figured it out but I still haven't?
The truth is, you are not Alone !
Feeling lost in your 20s is a most common phenomena in early adulthood though most people fear to admit it. And people relentlessly posting their achievements like landing a new job, travelling to a foreign country, getting into happy relationships and checking off their bucket list adds to that tension. Most people hide their uncertainty due to the fear of being judged or appearing unsuccessful.This is why everyone ends up comparing their real struggles with other people’s reel life. The twenties are the most uncertain and crucial years of your life.
They are overwhelming to process because of the transition from adolescence to young adulthood. It is a period where you are expected to build a future while understanding yourself. You are constantly juggling between your passion and practicality while choosing your career path. You are trying to become financially independent while balancing the freedom that also brings instability, pressure and uncertainty. Along with that, relationships have now become more serious and complicated, friendships change, romantic expectations grow and the pressure to create a firm identity in this society which offers endless choices and comparison builds in too. In all this chaos the loneliness finds a room to creep in.
The hardest part is nobody really teaches you how confusing this stage of life can be. People often talk about success, but rarely talk about the anxiety, self-doubt and emotional exhaustion that comes with it. Emotional loneliness is not always about being alone; it is about feeling unseen. But feeling lost does not mean you are failing. In many ways it is actually growing, it is the part and parcel of life. Your twenties are not about having answers to everything immediately, it is about exploring, making mistakes, falling but having the strength to stand up and try again. It is about changing your directions and gradually unwinding who you truly are and who you want to become. Most people are far from certain than they appear. They are simply better at hiding it. And probably that is the comforting truth of the twenties. We are all learning so relax, take a seat back and don't go through life but grow through it.